People vs. Behavior

Never be mad at the person, but instead mad at their behavior.

Really think about that….This is something I literally remind myself every day, and I can tell you it has changed my life both personally and professionally. 

Behaviors do not have to form people. Behaviors are things that people do- sometimes unnecessary, or inappropriate. But do not let the behavior interfere with the relationship you have with that person. Do not let the behavior interfere with the way you feel about that person, because behaviors and people are two different things.

Ever say or do something really embarrassing or rude, and wish you didn’t because people will think of you differently? Of course you have, and so have I. That is where this little trick comes into play. Make sense?

Remember that friend who blew you off for lunch the other day? That doesn’t define them as a person. You do not know what led to that behavior, and you know that person is your friend. But their behavior confused you, inconvenienced you, and honestly just pissed you off. However, their behavior and the emotions you feel twirling around because of that behavior do not have to reflect on who they truly are. People behave poorly, it happens. Not everyone can be as perfect as you are 😉

Find out what led to their behavior. Find out why they inconvenienced you or hurt your feelings, because with communication comes clarification.

To gain this kind of mindset is not easy. As I said earlier, I remind myself of this every day when I am hurt or upset by others. It will truly make a difference in how you perceive people, how you treat them, and your relationship with them. You can be the bigger person, I know you can!

The next time you’re hurt or upset by someone- ask yourself why. Is it because of who they are as a person, or because of their behavior?

-keep shining